I just find it sad that we live in a society where we have to defend Jennifer Lawrence for not being emaciated.
Especially considering she’s still really thin (in a healthy way)… I’m completely baffled anyone would consider her remotely un-thin.
Also that we have to defend Amandla Stenberg for being black because the character was described as “innocent” (even though she was also described in the book as, you know, having ‘dark brown skin’).
And then people try to tell you that there’s no racism or sexism. Pfft…
just spent an hour reading an extensive feminist discussion
The actual topic was prison rape, comparing male and female situations etc, but as always (and as it should be) issues of other kinds of privilege intersecting came into play, like racial and class privilege, and so on.
I’m not here to say anything particularly intelligent or insightful about that, just to say (probably to the groans of POC everywhere because this sounds like a white guilt / white heroism movie) that I wish I could wave a wand and make everything better. I feel like such a meaningless grain of sand, really, and all I feel I can do (as a white person) is strive to not be ignorant myself and to be aware of my own privilege and to educate myself. Then again, I guess I feel pretty powerless in terms of opposing misogyny and homophobia too (things which directly affect me / place me in the oppressed group, unlike racism). I’m not a public speaker, a go-getter, a would-be politician… all the things I feel capable of doing are internal or e-“activism” which feels like hardly enough. As a slight tangent, I am glad I’m not American as the ridiculous misogynistic bullshit going on doesn’t directly affect me, but equally it’s kind of frustrating because all the calls for sort-of-action (writing to politicians, that sort of thing) are not meaningful for me, because I’m not one of their citizens.
BECAUSE, ROGER! BECAUSE THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS ‘FEMALE PRIVILEGE’ IN THIS SOCIETY! WHAT YOU’RE THINKING OF IS WHAT WE CALL ‘BENEVOLENT SEXISM’ BECAUSE IT EXISTS ONLY WITHIN THE ESTABLISHED FRAMEWORK OF AN ALREADY CORRUPT PATRIARCHAL SYSTEM. BEING REWARDED FOR NOT SWIMMING AGAINST THE CURRENT IS NOT THE SAME THING. THE EXISTENCE OF A REWARD ISN’T PROOF OF PRIVILEGE BUT RATHER A MEANS FOR THE GREATER NARRATIVE OF SEXISM TO PERPETUATE ITSELF BY OFFERING CRUMBS FROM A LARGER MEAL. INSTITUTIONAL POWER IS STILL WHAT YOUR GENDER HOLDS OVER US IN ALL ASPECTS OF DAILY LIFE, AND UNTIL THOSE WALLS ARE LEVELED THE THINGS YOU SEE AS THE ‘BENEFITS’ OF BEING A WOMAN ARE ONLY FEATHERED SHACKLES!
SO I SHOULDN’T HOLD THE DOOR OPEN FOR YOU, IS WHAT YOU’RE SAYING.
YES! NO! I DON’T KNOW!
in all seriousness the men that act offended when girls feel belittled by their condescending “chivalry,” as well as the women who go absolutely apeshit about doors being held for them (of all things), are annoying as fuck*. idk about you all but around here holding a door is just polite (when it makes sense) regardless of what genders are involved. i added the “when it makes sense” because it’s ALSO annoying as fuck when someone holds a door for you but you’re actually really far away so you have to awkwardly run-walk to get through. but if you drop a door in someone’s face whether you or they are male or female you’re just a jerk.
*anecdotally, fwiw, I’ve encountered many of those types of men but only heard of those types of women (from the mouths or typing hands of men who are bitching about how evil feminists are). i mean i’m sure they must be out there, but you know.