- notforked: "Not to start sounding like a PSA, but a couple of my crazy party friends happen to be doctors. These guys have shoved ecstasy up my ass, and I’ve done cocaine off their cocks. They know their way around every recreational poison you can imagine, and they’ve told me the same thing every time: smoking is the worst thing you can do to your body." < coketalk
- ohaiena: LMAOOO
- ohaiena: like
- ohaiena: how do we become coketalk?
- ohaiena: is what should guide our life choices
- notforked: i'm not sure i ever want to have someone put a drug up my ass LMAO
- ohaiena: well obviously she wanted it
- ohaiena: assuming you WANTED it
- notforked: oh of course
- ohaiena: would your friends put drugs up your butt?
- ohaiena: if the answer is no
- ohaiena: we need new friends
- notforked: LMAO
- notforked: i think you'd put drugs up my butt... assuming we were into that LMAO
- notforked: i'd put drugs up your butt
Whether there is a sexism problem within the atheist community is really not up for debate. People affected by it have been telling you and telling you and telling you there is a problem. So when you say, “Sexism is not a problem for/by/about atheists,” those of us who have direct experience with sexism hear, “I like things fine the way they are and thus would rather spend my time antagonizing the people who say they’re hurt than the people causing the pain.” And we conclude that you are awful.
Finally, if your solution to sexist abuse on the internet is, “Just don’t let anyone know your gender, or see a picture of you, or ever mention where you live” (as one of the first commenters on Watson’s post suggested), you are so fucking awful, I can’t even. It’s not just that you’re putting all the onus on the targets of hatred to change so that bullies won’t have to, or that you’re conveniently ignoring situations, in almost 20fucking12, where a woman might want to have her picture and contact info on the internet for, I dunno, business reasons? For example? And it’s not even that you’re representing yourself as someone who’s clearly more internet-savvy than the lady blogger in question, but you apparently don’t realize that a highly motivated person can pretty easily discover the identity behind a pseudonym. No, it’s that you’re arguing that abuse of women online would solve itself if only women disappeared from the internet.
“You Are Awful, Too,” Kate Harding
Click through to read the whole thing; it’s great.